Do you ever feel like Pinocchio and someone else is pulling your strings

Lately I have been pushed and pulled in every way you can possibly imagine. I am a big pushover and believe almost anything you hear. I was raised in a good Southern Baptist home and very proud of it. My parents taught me very well and never let me down when it came to raising me on values. Lately I have let my values go a little. You see I listened to other people when it came to my relationship with my husband (my first mistake) It is one thing when you ask for advice, its another when people just give you thier opinion and you take it (my second mistake) I was told several things by a person to teach my husband a lesson and make him basically my slave so I could do what I wanted to do. It was just some of the most un orthodox things that I had ever heard of doing that finally made me think this could honestly hurt him. It wasnt until I talked to my BFF AMY and she was like "Jennifer just go home to him and tell him you love him ask him how he feels and be done with it, what they are telling you to do is BS" So I thought about it and It was BS and it was more than what that they were wanting me to "teach" him in the lesson as they so called it. I realized talking to him on the phone while I was in the process that I loved David so much that I didnt want to hurt him and this stuff I was considering doing was going to seriously hurt him and scar him for a while so I left and chose not to do this un-orthodox thing to him that I was not raised to do. I had never seen anyone who loved each other want to hurt the other person and I didnt want to do that to him. I love him with all my heart and he knows that and we are a stronger couple now because of all this. I also realized that one of these people have been jerking me around for a while now. I wasn't until this incident that made me realize that I am noone's pinocchio or puppet so to say and I don't want any one to be my puppet as well.